September 1, 2019 at 9:23 pm #398adminKeymaster
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Concepts and skills introduced
• Emotion management.
• Time management.
Situation & Exercise
My name is Rosa and I am a 40 year old woman and I live with my mother after she was diagnosed with senile dementia 5 years ago. Before I lived in another house with my son and my husband, but after a few months of diagnosis we had to move to my mother’s house, because she didn’t want to leave her home and was less and less self-sufficient so I still had to pass the most of my days at her house since she needs my help with everything. This was a twist for my family but we had to adapt.
The situation is further worsened by the fact that I have no family member willing to help me; everyone takes the distance as an excuse and never even comes to visit her. It seems that no one apart from me has understood the gravity of the situation or is interested in my mother’s condition. I feel abandoned and I’m always tired. I look after her 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. I love my mother and I would be willing to do everything for her, but I would need someone’s help because in this situation I feel like I don’t have a way out.
I feel inadequate because although I have prepared a form in which I have planned all the activities I have to perform throughout the day, I can never complete them in the ways and times I would like. We also tried several carers for a while, but none of them had the necessary skills to take care of my mother and so we eventually stopped looking. It seems to me that nobody can help her, not even me, and this makes me feel overwhelmed.
From what has begun to show the first problems in communication I can no longer understand her and despite my commitment I feel I am not doing enough for her. Because of all these aspects, I often feel angry and abandon myself to despair and guilt. I no longer recognize myself, before the discovery of this terrible disease I was always cheerful and carefree. I feel useless I think I am not worth anything: if I cannot help her, I who am her daughter, who know her well, who else can do it?
Now that you have read about this case, try to reflect on what happened within the framework of the emotional intelligence skills you have acquired through PeerCare.
Imagine you were in Rosa’s shoes;
• What feelings does this story have in you?
• Have you ever felt like the woman in the story?
• Would you say that Rosa’s self-esteem is high or low?
• Based on what you read in the module, what would you suggest to do to Rosa to improve her self-esteem?
• What could Rosa do to manage her time better?March 20, 2020 at 10:56 am #1109
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